05-21-2021, 01:41 PM
Hi Project,
I have been reading your forum for years, but now it’s taking a turn that I don’t like, all or almost the stories you publish seem to start from the idea that accepting that your boyfriend goes with others is normal, I don’t know if it’s normal or if it’s almost inevitable, but I have to tell you clearly: I don't like these things! I don’t like them at all. If I have to find someone who has sex with me and uses me just for that, I prefer to stay on my own, I feel much better alone than this way, and I also take fewer health risks. But, tell me, if one has sex with me today and the next day with another, what kind of relationship do you want me to create with him? Basically I would have to adapt, I’d have to put up with everything and that's it. No! I don't want a guy like that! I want one that truly loves me and allows me to truly love him. It may seem paradoxical but I'd prefer to be with a girl "who loves me" (and I'm not bisexual!) because at least she loves me, but I don’t’ accept at all to stay with someone who likes to have sex with me today, and tomorrow with another guy. In fact, it never happened to me, but it didn't happen to me because I avoided like the plague situations that smelled of such things. I believe that many times the idea of being a Red Cross nurse of "affective" love also comes to guys and that is the idea of being able to remove the obsession of random sex from the head of the partner, to transform him into one capable of Love with capital L. But these are not good intentions, they are bullshit! As soon as a guy makes strange speeches to me: Goodbye ! As soon as I catch him saying one thing and doing another I fly him down the stairs! You are free to do what you want, but not with me! Sex ok, it’s important but if it becomes a fixed idea it becomes a pathological thing, a true form of addiction. One says: where am I going to find the guy? On apps and sites! It sounds obvious. But what do you find there? I went there too, but it was a thing to be obsessed with. One says: but if I go there just to look for a serious guy ... Mh ... and you find him there? Apart from the strange and dangerous people that it is better to lose than to find, there is a tide of frustrated, obsessed of the most strange things, drifted people, who don’t know what they want, who complain, who feel victims of the world, but instead of committing themselves and working hard, they stay on the apps from morning to evening. Now after this premise, one expects me to tell my story but I cannot tell stories because I have no stories to tell, they would be stories that "in theory" could have even started if the guy or I had been different people, and I think that such stories would have come out very similar to those I read so frequently on the forum. I don’t have a boyfriend, well, do you think it’s not a good thing? Is it a good thing, instead to have a guy who pests you, who has sex with others, who tells you lies or who complains on the phone from morning to night? What is worse? Getting a boyfriend, ok it's fine with me, but if and only if he's not a pathological case, if and only if he's has only sex with me and doesn't claim to have sex with other guys while he stays with me. No! I can't stand these things! I should write a nice post about how good it is to hang out on your own, with friends, about how good it is to plan your life and try to build it, about how good it is to play sports, about how nice it is not to be emotionally dependent on anyone, not to de addicted to anyone, not to be anyone's lackey, not to be what it takes just to fuck ... but how can you accept such things? Many guys say: I accept such things because I love him! But that's not true, you accept it because you are weak and you stick like a leechto the first one you find, and then sooner or later you the time will come to pay for these complacencies, because those who say these things refuse to reason and see the facts for what they are. But gee, do I have to go after a guy who has sex with other guys? No!! For no reason, I'm not anyone's doormat! Project, but is it possible that nobody writes to you to talk about positive things, normal stories? Gays don't just think about sex and looking for a guy, they also have a social life, they study, work, it seems that all of these things are second-rate compared to painful stories of weird couples. In short, Project, if you have other content but “of a different kind”, put it in the forum, but don't make the guys believe that accepting to be with a guy who has other guys while he stays with you is normal, because it is not at all! It almost seems that the forum has entered an atmosphere of decadence even in the contents, but we have to wake up! We must seek the best! Without being satisfied with the first one who passes by, our dignity depends on us.