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FROM GAY COUPLE TO ENLARGED FAMILY
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Hello Project,
 
we don't know each other but I know you a little because I've read the forum so many times and I still read it now and I think it's my duty to tell you my story because you also have something to do with it.
 
I’m 32 years old, I don't know if they are many but to me they seem truly many. I can say I'm lucky because life has been very generous with me. I have parents I love, who are getting old, but it's inevitable, they never really made me feel alone.
 
I never had any problems with my homosexuality, or rather, I had no problems accepting it, for me it was an obvious and natural thing, I have been involved in a few stories, but of little meaning, just when I was very young, then I dedicated myself to work in almost exclusive and I put aside my emotional world for a while. I also met gay guys but, frankly, I didn't feel attracted to them.
 
Then, when I was 26, I met a guy, whom I will call Fulvio here (because he is a bit red in hair [in Italian the adjective "fulvo" means "reddish"]). I met him at work but he wasn’t a colleague of mine, he was working for a company that lives producing semi-finished mechanical components for the company where I work. When we met, I have to say, I didn’t feel involved with him, for me he was just a guy I had met by chance and with whom I had absolutely nothing to share. For work reasons we had the opportunity to meet several times and so we started talking a little, but about everything and nothing in particular.

In hindsight I can say that he probably understood a lot more about me than what I understood about him. Still for work reasons we continued to see each other often and I noticed that when it happened, for me it was a pleasing thing and probably for him too, and so our mutual knowledge gradually deepened. He is a nice guy but not exactly a handsome guy, or at least he didn't look like a handsome  guy to me, so I didn't feel attracted to him in that sense. 

One day he was very angry, really furious, he was depressed, but very troubled, upset, aggressive, and he began to attack me, of course, only verbally. He unloaded his anger against me and I didn't understand why. I must confess that for this reason I was uncomfortable, I did not understand the reason for his aggressiveness.
 
In the following days he didn't change his attitude and then he disappeared, I never saw him again and I didn't know what to think. I kept going to his company, always for work reasons, but in his place there was a middle-aged lady and I missed Fulvio. In the end I took courage and asked news about him. They told me that he had quit his job and that he never showed up again. I didn't have his cell phone number, I asked the lady but she didn't give it to me and I was very upset, but one day, while I was waiting for the lady in her office, I saw that there was an open agenda. Since I knew the guy's name I looked for it and found it, I memorized the number and then, when the lady arrived, I acted as usual, as if nothing had happened.
 
When I got home I called him. He immediately asked me who had given me his number and I told him that I had stolen it, he started to set off his aggressiveness and attacked me badly and, shortly after, he closed the phone in an abrupt manner. I felt a total fool for having looked for him and I have been in a bad mood for most of the evening. Then, at around 11.00 pm he calls me back, apologizes, always a bit brusquely, asks me if I live alone or if there are others at home, I tell him that there is no one, he asks me where I live exactly, I tell him where and he replies that he will come to my house after a few minutes, I just say: ok!
  
He arrives, looks around, then asks me: "Why did you look for me?" I tell him that I hadn't seen him for a few days and other such banalities. He stops me and says: "People don't steal a phone number if there is no serious reason!" I feel a little put at the corner and I try to digress, he apparently changes the subject: "Do you have a girl?" I answer him: "No! And you?" He hesitates, then says, "No!" But he goes further: "So why did you look for me?" I reply in a deliberately neutral way: "Because I was fine talking to you." Then he asks the question I never wanted to hear: "Are you gay?" I feel terrible embarrassment, but I say to him: "Yes" and I immediately add: "And you?" He waits a few seconds and then says: "Yes, but I don’t want a guy." I answer him: "But I'm not in love with you, you're not my type, you just seemed like an interesting guy ... " He interrupts me: "And what do you want from me?" I tell him that if he comes under my home at night there will be a reason, he looks at me with a defiant attitude: "You think you have understood everything, but you didn't understand a shit! You only make me angry!"
 
Well, our relationship began like this, in practice somehow as a fight. Nothing tender, nothing affectionate, absolutely nothing sexual. He stayed at my house until after two, I suggested he could sleep at my home, obviously not in my room, but he didn't want to hear about such proposals. His behavior destabilized me. In the following days I called him on the phone several times but he never answered. After a week he came back to my house late at night, I thought he wanted to talk a little, but he asked me if he could stay the night and he retired to the guest room and in the morning, very early, I heard he was closing the door of the house, I went to see, he had left and had left a note, with only written: "I'll call you".

Our relationship proceeded this way, apparently without a goal and without meaning. I didn't understand anything about him, I didn't know anything about him. I wondered why I had got into such a mess, I felt used and at the same time marginalized. Then a traumatic event intervened, but not at a psychological level, right at the physical level: I had a serious car accident and ended up in the hospital in a reserved prognosis for a few days. I don’t remember anything of those days, I only know that when I woke up, or better at my first re-emergence to consciousness, I had my parents and Fulvio around me. Then they told me he had been there every day as long as they allowed him to stay by my bed.

My recovery was slow, it took me almost three months to get back into acceptable conditions, that is to walk more or less normally and he stayed three months at my house to assist me, day and night, and the first times it must have been something really heavy. But he didn't just assist me, he sat next to me and we talked a lot, he treated me with affection. Slowly I learned to understand his world, and it was a difficult world, so difficult that I didn't believe that such a world could exist.

We slept in the same room, I on the orthopedic bed and he on a cot. I asked him why he had quit his job and he told me that he didn't quit his job but they fired him because one of his bosses had tried something sexual with him and he had sent him to the hell. He told me that he stayed at my house also because he could no longer pay for the room because, without a job and without money it was absolutely impossible, and therefore he had also taken the opportunity to find a temporary accommodation. This speech struck me a lot.
 
He told me very briefly about his family, if we can call it this way. His father hadn’t recognized him and, in practice, he almost never saw him, his mother died of an overdose when he was a child and he was entrusted to his grandmother who lived with a very minimal pension, then, just a few days after he turned 22, his grandmother died too, he had just found a job and shared a rented room with another guy, but shortly they fired him and he had to leave the room.

Fulvio is extremely proud, he has a dignity, he has never talked to me about money and this means that, if he stays with me, very likely he is not there for money or to find an accommodation, even if he tells the exact opposite. Among other things, in the last period of my convalescence he found another job. Precisely for this reason we were forced to arrive at a clarification. He told me he could be autonomous again and that he would leave. I began to be afraid, I knew I could not ask him to stay with me on the grounds of economic utility because such a thing would have infuriated him. He didn't want to depend on anyone, he said to me: "Now you don't need me anymore."

It was precisely to respond to that statement that I told him I had fallen in love with him. He looked at me right in the eyes and said, "Don't lie! I know that it’s not true!" Then I had to correct my sentence: "Well, I think I could fall in love with you, but, please, don't go away!" He stared at me for a few seconds: "At least you didn't say lies.” And he stayed with me. I feared that he wanted to set a deadline, for example that he would say to me: "I only stay a month." But I immediately noticed that he had set no limits, but obviously I pretended I hadn’t noticed it, and said nothing about this. Our life together began this way.
 
With the new job he had big problems, they wanted to fire him because he didn't want to close his eyes in front of very deep forms of malpractice if not of real scam. Then he changed job and the new job was widely better, requited more time but was even better paid. For a certain period (two or three months at least) I thought that Fulvio had found a guy, because he spent a lot of time away from home, I was worried but I didn't have the courage to ask him anything, I saw him very tired, stressed, almost physically destroyed by work.

At one point I thought that he really had serious problems because he was home only at night and for a few hours, I could no longer bear not knowing what was happening and I asked him what he had. He looked at me, he meditated for a moment and then he said to me: "It’s right for you to know it: I have a boyfriend, if you want, I pack my bags today and leave." I stopped him and told him: "Ok, you have a boyfriend, but why are you so stressed?" And he replied: "Because Claudio has huge problems and we are trying to solve them, I work from morning to night, I do double shifts and I can hardly see him ..." That's what he told me about Claudio, then he added: “he's a boy refused by his family and who is coming out of bad circles, who ran away from his city because he was really afraid of the criminals who forced him to ... well, you understood ... "

He told me that Claudio had a bed for rent and that he didn't work because he was in very bad shape. I told him: "But make him come here! With a minimum of sacrifice this house can be enough for the three of us, then we’ll see what we can do." He looked at me quite perplexed, then said: "Do you realize what you are saying?" I replied: "Maybe not perfectly, but let's not waste time, let's go get him." Claudio was really upset: skin and bones, two hours later he was at home with Fulvio. 

I gave them my room that had a double bed and I moved into the small room, they didn't want to, but I forced them. The same afternoon we took Claudio to a very good doctor who prescribed him a series of tests and explained to us how to do in order to make Claudio be taken on charge by our region's health service, since he comes from another region. Obviously Claudio also did the HIV test and since he hadn't had sex for quite some time, the window period had also passed. The test gave negative results and we calmed down, after a few days we had all the clinical results in hand. In practice, Claudio carried the consequences of an untreated bronchopneumonia and full recovery would take time. Everything else was in order. 

Claudio was then 23 years old, he was very tall but he already had a bent back and was very thin. We took care of him and saw him slowly bloom again. Fulvio was madly in love with him and seeing them together aroused great tenderness in me, with me they were absolutely natural and casual. Sometimes we used to watch television together, I in the armchair and they crouched together on the sofa. I, who in theory should have been jealous, I felt happy to see them like this.

Almost five years have passed. We still live together, we are now a family, they are a very tender and very real gay couple, I don't know what I am, at the beginning I was a bit of a nanny, now I’m "only" a true friend who loves them. Now Claudio also works and we share all the expenses, they have placed it as a mandatory condition to continue being together. My way of being gay is certainly strange but nevertheless I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world: their happiness is my happiness!

I have to add one more thing that seems very important to me. One day I was at my parents' house, I took courage in two hands and told them the whole story. I didn't know how they would take it. My father looked me straight in the eyes, then he stood up, he said to me: "Come here!" And hugged me tightly, then he exchanged a look of understanding with my mother and told me: "Sunday the three of you must come to have lunch here with us!” There were no other comments of any kind. On Sunday, when Fulvio and Claudio came to my parent's home, I tell you it almost with tears in my eyes, my parents were just as happy as two kids and Fulvio and Claudio had a great time. Now every now and then mom goes to my house, cleans the house and brings us something already cooked to eat. Fulvio and Claudio have a beautiful relationship with my parents, in practice we are an extended family.

That's all, Project, of course you can put the email where you like better because there are no identifiable elements and the names have been changed. Fulvio and Claudio greet you, they too have heard of you!
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